Don't you dare cry or leave! Shame on her for being so selfish. Don't reward her by wasting any more time worrying about her or her children.

What's the difference between you and adding another kid to the group?
You pay the same money, so it's just an issue of more height and better attention span!

Don't bother to discuss anything with her in the future. I'll bet her daughter doesn't pay attention, so she's looking to place blame on others.
If she says something like that again, tell her to talk to the skating school director.
S/he'll set her straight or sell her private lessons.

Anyway, if you stay in, maybe more adults will join group lessons. Then, you might have an entire group to skate with that will be more supportive.

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WHAT A CROCK OF SH##!!! If her kid needs more attention she should get off her lazy a@@ and get her kid in private lessons with a full-time one-on-one coach!

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Thanks for the support! I'm not crying, I just feel like it. It's been a long time since anyone said something harsh like that to me for no good reason. At least I have the support from the kids in class-they all like me, and I even had a 6-year-old helping me with my RBO and LBO 3-turns (which I can now do kinda well).

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"It's like trying to do a toe loop in hockey skates-you have to have the right tools for the job."

That's ridiculous, deannathegeek, that b.... needs some duct tape for her mouth! Any student in a group class who is worse at something than the others will get more attention from the teacher and the age shouldn't matter. Unless, of course, the mom would like to imply that her kids are the 2nd and 3rd worst in the class? Which means that whether you leave or not doesn't matter, cuz they simply don't have the talent to do well despite their age.

*sigh* you know now I really feel like smacking that mom.

Are you serious!! You tell her your money is as green as hers and you'll probably still be there shelling out $$$ to support skating long after HER daughter has gotten tired of skating and is doing something else.

J

That skating mom can fry her A$$ for all I care!! As someone else posted maybe Jealous Skating Mom should sign her Little Darling up for privates if she wants her Little Darling to get more attention.

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Deanna,

Congrats on the mazurka

On the other point....some people are just so insecure that they need to bring others down to feel important. One of my favorite sayings that my first coach practically beat into my head is, "Don't get mad, get even." Next time you have a lesson go out there and show them that you pay the same amount of money, have as much right to the ice time and to the attention of the coach as any of the other skaters in your group. You got this far, try not to let one small minded person stop any further progress you will make.

Deanna I hope you're feeling better It's horrible when you get things like that shot at you.

Flat:
Just about everything. Some boroughs have half term this week, so the rink was busy, full of people who wouldn't look where they were going, and didn' care about getting in anyone's way. An argument blew up between the head coach and some guys in hockey skates because they wouldn't move for a girl in a lesson. Resulted in them closing the public session ten minutes early because they wouldn't get off the ice.

Didn't do any spirals, didn't want to risk falling on my knee again. Edges were okayish, slow because of the ice. Waltz-jumps were pathetic. Three-turns were pretty useless too. I was tired, in a bad mood, started snapping at people. Not a good session

Rolling Uphill:
Spins are just about, slightly, almost, hopefully...


...getting there
Got three revs. on my one foot a couple of times. Fell and slipped off a few, but that's not the point

Thanks to all of the support here, I'm pretty much over it-even laughing about it. My whole day has gone from flat to bouncy thanks to you guys!

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"It's like trying to do a toe loop in hockey skates-you have to have the right tools for the job."

Wow. What a (rhymes with witch).

I'm glad you're feeling better about it. She's probably just jealous that you have the guts to get out there and learn. I'll bet she secretly wants to skate but is too afraid to try it, so she settles for putting you down to make herself feel better. Maybe you'll inspire some of the other (nicer) skating moms to give lessons a try too

For me:

Bouncy:
-dances! I'm feeling good about them, but don't want to feel overconfident and mess up tomorrow.

Flat:
-Moves. Well, not really flat. I'm just stressing that I don't have enough time to fix all the little things I want to before tomorrow. I'm most nervous about making loud toepick noises on the back cross strokes, stiffening up on the power pulls, forgetting to stand up straight on the left back outside 3s (when I hunch, I can't hold the exit edge), not getting enough room to fit in all the 3s, and forgetting to bend my knees & get a good check on the outside mohawks (if I don't do that, I end up on inside edges or flats).

Okay, just saying all that made me feel better

I keep telling myself that it's okay if I don't pass these the first time. I've only been back on the ice for 2 1/2 months, and these moves aren't exactly easy. I'm looking at it as an opportunity to learn what elements I need improvement on, and what elements I do well.

bouncy: I pass my driver's test!! I am now a licensed driver! I turned 17 on Monday and my dad took me to the DMV and even though I didn't parallel park right, the instructor knew how nervous I was, and I was so cautious the entire time, so he passed me and told me to practice parking. I did it perfectly like 10 times over the weekend.. but I was just shaking so much(which we found out later was due to taking me off of a certain med, so I was having a withdrawal).

and I got 7 rotations on a camel spin, my new personal best!

and I am scheduled for 2 private lessons at ISCC(international skating center of connecticut) camp with.. Melissa Gregory! yes, the Melissa Gregory. I am so pysched.

Flat: I've been really anxious and shaky for the last week. I thought it was because I was nervous for my driving test but that was Monday and I passed... so we figured out that it was from stopping my Ativan, so my mom got a new prescription and I'm being weaned off it it. But because of that, on Monday I felt like I was wearing boots made out of cement, I could barely do crossovers. It got better each day but I'm still not back to normal.'

and I just realized that I won't be able to do spring track because I still have my IV. dang nabbit.

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That is horrible!!!!! Don't let this horrible person get you down - she's probably jealous, really. Wow, I just can't believe people sometimes.

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Thanks for sharing that because it made me really think about what I'd want to say if anyone ever said something like that to me. . . I think it would be,

"If I get off the ice, then who's going to show these kids that there's life after 40?"

(. . . 'cause you know it ain't gonna be the MARTYR skating mom!)

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I would just ignore that woman...

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That skating mom is just JEALOUS b/c she's too lazy and too CHICKEN to get her own @$$ out there to skate. If she's so concerned about her precious little darlin' getting more time with her teacher, maybe she should go and SPEND the money on private lessons with the teacher instead!!!

Yeah, I had a similar thing happened to me way back when *I* was in skating school (this is YEARS ago, BTW!!!) A skating mom asked me if I was married and if I had kids. I said "Yes I'm married but no kids." (NOT that's ANY of their business , but I have nothing to hide... ) Said skating mom then says "Why don't you go and have a baby with your husband and let your daughter skate for you then?" I said "WHAT?!?!?! And miss out on ALL the fun myself!?!?! Are you CRAZY!?!?! " They NEVER challenged me after that! (I think these days the skating parents actually like me being around. Playmate and babysitter on the ice... )

And I'm willing to bet on it their precious little daughter is off doing God knows what instead of figure skating now... And guess what? I'm STILL SKATING!!! Not only that... but COMPETING in skating now!!! So THERE!!!

GEEK POWERS UNITE!!! (I'm a software engineer too...)

On that note...

Bouncy:
Loops are better today. Primary coach is happier with my flips. I'm landing them more consistently. Then again, it's probably b/c I'm not tired and doing a SLEW of them for 15 minutes and am expected to do MORE of them!!! (Hint hint, secondary coach!!! )

Flat:
I come in to a HUGE SLEW of KIDS skating. 120 skaters!!! WTF!?!?! (Luckily, not many of them went going thru the middle.)

I am having trouble landing loop-loops today. I got some gel pads to cushion the ankle bone area and it's STILL hurting. I'm definitely going to take these purple puppies in for repairs and see if they can do something about it on Tuesday.

Back sits are bad too. Partly b/c of the boot but mostly b/c of me!

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Thank you for the support, you guys!!!

Definitely bouncy: While at the rink Wednesday for a lesson, I saw one of my friends land a BE-YEW-TIFUL double loop, nice height, good rotations, run out on the landing. Not the first time she's landed it, but it was really pretty. She said she did a few like that in the session, but her coach didn't see them.

Also bouncy: in lesson, was working on getting the salchow to jump "through" instead of just knee up. (I have the same problem on the waltz jump--knee goes up but I don't have a whole lot of travel "through" on the jump.) Trying a "split salchow" worked for me--I didn't get a split position but got the feeling of the transfer of the weight from takeoff leg to air to landing leg. It felt completely different. Whee!

deanna--That woman is not worth your time (or anyone else's). Rest assured you have as much right to be on that ice as anyone else who paid for the group lessons.

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[Bouncy]

Didn't skate yesterday (had to judge a talent show at work ), which I'm thinking helped me have a really good day today. Spins were strong and fast, jumps were BIG including lutzes, I landed a few axels (still a bit cheated, but closer...I could feel myself pull my legs in). Did some double sals for giggles...gotta' work on the leg position for that one...

[Flat]

Program was okay...messed up a couple of the jumps, but then did them again afterwards as they are choreographed in my program and they were fine...don't know why it doesn't happen when the music is on...

[Bouncy]

Moves again felt good. Concentrated on getting a good extension on the back double 3s, as that was one of the comments the judges made...

Lesson tomorrow...feels like I haven't seen coach in forever...hopefully I skate okay tomorrow...

Deanna - I keep thinking "Maybe she's too old, but you sure aren't!"

Flat - Got an email from my coach that the rink where I have my lessons will have school groups totalling 200 kids tomorrow. She left it to me about my lesson, but DH skates then also, and doesn't want to deal with the crowd, so we'll go elsewhere and I'll have no lesson for two weeks (holiday the following week).

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Bouncy: Finally landed a decent toe loop in my thursday lesson I've been doing it everywhere but there. Spins were better than normal for a thursday morning. One of the regular skaters at the thursday session skated in the 4 Continents and made past the qualifying round!

Flat: Still having trouble with the loop. I'm starting to get frustrated with my reconstructed axel. I'm doing everything right except landing it. I keep bailing out on the last 1/2 turn and end up landing on two feet. On the plus side, the jump is big (coach said I should be doing a triple )

Yeah you can tell from the skating videos, you looked a little low on energy but you did still look like you were totally in control so there, you'll be okay. Sucks about the iv still being in your way though.
And congratulations on your driving test!!! LOL on the driving test I passed I didn't have to parallel-park, thank God, cuz frankly for me it's like my camel spin, I think I can do it, then at the most inappropriate times, I suddenly can't. Parallel parking sucks.

Though apparently it can get worse. Roomie of mine went to Aruba couple of years back and apparently, the way they park there if there's not enough room is like, give the car in front of you a gentle push with the bumper, give the car in the back of you a gentle push with the bumper.... When you come back, cuz everybody parks that way, your car is bumper-to-bumper with the cars around it again, so... When you wanna get out again, same principle, push forward, push backward...

Brrr I hate the flu. Tell me, how can somebody have the stomach flu first, and then the real flu three times from mid-december to mid-february? Well you can if you're me...
Though one of those times was probably strep throat.
Stupid doc says there's nothing he can do about it either. Cuz oooohhh it's a virus. *sigh* And I've had it for over a week now and I still feel like a puddle. ANyway I think I'm going skating tonight anyway, though I'll probably end up going off ice halfway through the (group) lesson.


Also, it took me a FREAKING HALF A YEAR of not jumping to get my ankle to stop hurting, 1,5 weeks ago I had physiotherapy , he had me jump on a trampoline cuz that wouldn't tax the ankle so much and it wouldn't hurt, and now it's STILL HURTING!
That while i was doing only quarter-rotation on the trampoline and I can do half-rotation and even salchow on ice without it hurting afterwards (at least, not after less than five jumps on a day and enough rest or so).
Of course now the physiotherapist is on holiday. How convenient!!!


Ughhhhhhh...................

What a cow! At our rink, most mornings, there are far more adult skaters than kid ones - often I've been one of the youngest on the ice at 54! You tell her you'll hang up your boots when you're in your eighties, not before....

Yes, you have to at your rink! I've never known a rink with more up-and-down ice.... ours is bad enough, and there was a bit of a slope today, but yours is worse!

Oh, brilliant! Wish I'd done mine when I was your age (actually, you can't in this country, you have to be 17 - and 18 where Sessy comes from!) instead of just two years ago!

Tell me about it! Luckily I didn't have to do it on my test, either - only reversing round a corner (which I'm not very good at and think I got a minor on) and turning in the road, which I'm very good at, or was then! I've actually forgotten how to parallel park, but never mind....

Now, to skating! Although I'm not sure I could have learnt to drive before I learnt to skate; I failed my test twice, the last time when I was six months pregnant, and gave up for 25 years!

Bouncy: Nothing spectacularly bouncy; just another practice.... fun, though.

Flat: Spins weren't working. Couldn't get some of the choreography we've been asked to work on. Rocker dreadful, but again, partly because we've lost the choreography leading into it. Everything else okay, but overall a pretty blah practice. Still, good exercise!

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I hope I'm not considered old-I'm only 30!!!

Bouncy: Payday AND tax refund in one day!

Flat: Still not enough to pay all the bills...

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"It's like trying to do a toe loop in hockey skates-you have to have the right tools for the job."

With my ankle injury yesterday, and only 6 weeks to Nationals, I was REALLY worried about how this would effect my skating. My ankle was quite sore by the end of the day but I had a LOOOONG sleep and it felt a bit better this morning.

Flat: It didn't take long in warm-up however to realize that I was NOT going to be doing any left inside edges without pain.

Bouncy: Surprisingly, everything else was not bad. Since I am "1/4 crippled" at the moment I thought I would try some jumps counter-clockwise instead of clockwise. Reversing the Waltz jump was easy, though I tend to land with my right leg a bit stiff. Reversing the Toe Loop feels a little strange but it will simply be a matter of getting used to the timing. In lesson I did a reversed Waltz for my coach and she was surprised - she said it had a LOT more height than my CW Waltz but she is hesitant to make a major change so close to Nationals.

We worked on my Freeskate program some more and coach seems quite relieved with the progress. Next week we will go back to the Interpretive and try to finish the choreography.

Hopefully by then my ankle will have healed and I will be able to do LI edges again.

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