sceptique
06-19-2007, 08:53 PM
Need to vent really....
For a short and sweet while our little rink seemed to be "politics-free" zone... looks like honeymoon is over and here I am, still at the rink, at 2 am tryng to figure out what went wrong.
Somehow I managed to get a skater mom as my sworn enemy who seemed to have started a guerilla against me. I say guerilla because she never ever openly confronted me, on the contrary - always sweet and smiling. I never suspected her when I heard the first "warning bell" - someone harshly critisized one of my students' skating to her and her mom. I just signed it off as "misunderstanding" and asked a very experienced guest coach to check on her progress - he seemed pleased and assured me that the girl is doing quite well. Next someone told the same student's mom that I was about to quit coaching - which was a bit of news for me (someone's wishful thinking perhaps?) And finally a bits came together - there came a complaint addressed to my boss describing in very colourful details a few snafus attributed to me. I must say, she makes a few fair points, but all that could easily be resolved in a face-to-face conversation (it's a very frequent case when a customer asks for something - like "my daughter missed a couple of lessons and she seems to be struggling with this turn, can you explain it to her?" and I spend a few minutes after the lesson just with this kid). To put it blantly, the overall content and tone of the message makes it clear: she wants me out of the rink.
And that's something I do not get at all. OK, she likes her daughter's coach - so do I: she's a hard-working person and excellent teacher. She didn't like our LTS and switched to privates - ok, I agree that it's not perfect and we are working to improve it. Show me any other Skate UK programme that is impressively better and I will eat my soakies!
I just do not understand what she's trying to achieve by ousting me. The other coach, as far as I know, is booked nearly to the limit, so I doubt it's a case of covert student poaching. To me, the mom is cutting the branch she's sitting on, as any other manager will most certainly be less "figure skating friendly" (say, letting patch skaters use extra 15 minutes of resurfacing break - well, that's stops from tomorrow. At least I won't be taking any more heat for ice not being ready in time for public skating).
And the most important thing - what shall I do about her? Say something, ignore it, pretend nothing is going on? How would you handle a disruptive parent?
For a short and sweet while our little rink seemed to be "politics-free" zone... looks like honeymoon is over and here I am, still at the rink, at 2 am tryng to figure out what went wrong.
Somehow I managed to get a skater mom as my sworn enemy who seemed to have started a guerilla against me. I say guerilla because she never ever openly confronted me, on the contrary - always sweet and smiling. I never suspected her when I heard the first "warning bell" - someone harshly critisized one of my students' skating to her and her mom. I just signed it off as "misunderstanding" and asked a very experienced guest coach to check on her progress - he seemed pleased and assured me that the girl is doing quite well. Next someone told the same student's mom that I was about to quit coaching - which was a bit of news for me (someone's wishful thinking perhaps?) And finally a bits came together - there came a complaint addressed to my boss describing in very colourful details a few snafus attributed to me. I must say, she makes a few fair points, but all that could easily be resolved in a face-to-face conversation (it's a very frequent case when a customer asks for something - like "my daughter missed a couple of lessons and she seems to be struggling with this turn, can you explain it to her?" and I spend a few minutes after the lesson just with this kid). To put it blantly, the overall content and tone of the message makes it clear: she wants me out of the rink.
And that's something I do not get at all. OK, she likes her daughter's coach - so do I: she's a hard-working person and excellent teacher. She didn't like our LTS and switched to privates - ok, I agree that it's not perfect and we are working to improve it. Show me any other Skate UK programme that is impressively better and I will eat my soakies!
I just do not understand what she's trying to achieve by ousting me. The other coach, as far as I know, is booked nearly to the limit, so I doubt it's a case of covert student poaching. To me, the mom is cutting the branch she's sitting on, as any other manager will most certainly be less "figure skating friendly" (say, letting patch skaters use extra 15 minutes of resurfacing break - well, that's stops from tomorrow. At least I won't be taking any more heat for ice not being ready in time for public skating).
And the most important thing - what shall I do about her? Say something, ignore it, pretend nothing is going on? How would you handle a disruptive parent?